5 “All Year” Caregiver Resolutions

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Every year as we enter into the prospect of a fresh start, we declare resolutions so that we can attempt to regain lost control of an aspect of our lives. Whether it’s dieting, exercising, reading, meditating or any other healthy habit that seems to rear its head once the first of the year rolls around again, it’s important to remember that we establish these goals to serve as helpful guidelines for redefining our lives and not prison sentences. So what’s one way to make these resolutions resonate for the long haul? Change the language and wording you’re using to create these intentions so that they convey a more positive meaning to you.

Here are 5 caregiver resolutions that can help you to actually make strides in the new year:

  1. Self Care → “Do You”: A common millennial phrase these days, “Do You” actually implies that you have the power to take control of your own situation. Your fate, decisions and progress are in your hands and your hands alone. It’s easy for us all to play the blame game or to make excuses for why we do or don’t do certain things. If you dedicate some time to creating a schedule that builds stress relief and self care into your daily routine, then you can redefine the way that you approach your life. There is something to be said about why organization and planning drive productivity. Similar to productivity in business, this concept typically leads to more time, and more time is generally synonymous with a better quality of life. Simply put, living life on our own terms is a type of freedom that many of us hope to achieve so that we can positively influence everything within our individual worlds. In short, get that manicure, take that walk, do that yoga class - just plan for that time so that your desired activity leads to embraced enjoyment rather than unnecessary stress.

  2. Ask for Help → “Release the ‘I’ Mentality”: Human nature seems to suggest that we tend to bite off more than we can chew, so to speak. However, you’re not obligated to endure a stressful journey alone; nor is it a productive way to tackle a time-consuming, emotionally charged task. There are many avenues of help that you can pursue when it comes to your caregiving experience, so release the ‘I’ mentality and reach out for assistance when you need it.

  3. Avoid Insanity → Positive Change Leads to New Outcomes: It’s easy to fall into the trap of a routine; we’re all guilty of it at one time or another. But changing your habits versus trying the same strategies and expecting different outcomes can fuel new results. If you know that your loved one is going to become triggered by certain factors, then try to be mindful of avoiding repeating history. Embrace new strategies when it comes to communicating and interacting with your caree so that you both experience positive feelings and productive outcomes.

  4. Be Influential → Motivate, Don’t Manipulate: You naturally endure stresses as a caregiver, but it’s important to remember your overall mission before you make a decision about how to interact with your loved one. If you’re running late and need to bribe your loved one to complete a task like brushing teeth, but use your powers of persuasion to expedite to the end goal, then you’re looking out for your own best interest. The goal should be to motivate your loved one to achieve success, no matter how small it may seem, so that they feel prideful about what they’ve done.

  5. Just Say No → Embrace the Power of No: You want to do it all. You feel guilty when you’re unable to do it all. But it’s okay to accept that you can’t do it all. You’re one person, you’re human, you’re not expected to overload your plate so much that you don’t have the time to care for yourself. Try it with us now, take a deep breath and just say “No.” There. It feels powerful, doesn’t it?

What are some all year resolutions that will enable you to breathe, live and care more freely in 2019?

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